b'Shouldnt We Stick Together to Create Positive Change?Every day the administrators on the Women In Truckingcreate empathy. Every story needs a component of conflict, Association Facebook page scan the posts for negativity,and the attack on the other person gives voters the conflict to profanity, and just plain nastiness. Every day someone iswant to empathize with the hero in the ad. However, if the banned from the site because they cant seem to keep his orattacks are found to be false, it doesnt allow the victim to be her comments civil. a hero, but rather a liar, which will backfire on them instead.Why? So, lets go back to why we cant seem to get along. Why cant we show more kindness, empathy, and just beWouldnt it make more sense to stick together and support a nice? greater cause than to intensify the conflict between ourselves? Believe it or not, there are biological reasons why ourIn the trucking industry, we have company drivers versus brains lean toward negativity. It goes back to the Stone Ageowner-operators, Teamsters versus non-union drivers, one and our tendency to be more concerned about survival thancarrier against another, private versus for-hire fleets, and kindness. Avoiding a predator was crucial, so staying awaythe list goes on. Drivers often feel that their counterparts from a tiger was more critical than petting a friendly dog. get a better break, maybe earn more or have better loads or Another study found that we are less likely to be meanpreferential treatment at a shipper or any number of reasons toward someone who is physically close to us, and since theto resent a fellow driver.internet separates us physically, were not thinking of theFor every person out there who drives a truck, you have so targeted victim as someone nearby. There is also researchmuch more in common than you realize. Youre all doing the suggesting that communication without the nonverbalsame job, for the same reason. Can we start there?component (gestures, body language, and so on) increasesTry a little kindness. Try some empathy, and maybe your an adverse reaction to the perceived threat from anotherlife will change. In fact, your life could be longer. A negative person. outlook has been proven to shorten your lifespan. Is it worth I cannot handle mean people. I refuse to tolerate peopleit? Many studies have connected longevity to personal who call someone names or make threats, or just post unkindhappiness and a positive outlook.things about the persons inherent traits instead of focusingYouve probably heard the adage, If you cant say on a behavior. something nice, say nothing at all. I have, and although it Weve all been taught to fight fair, which means weprompts me to bite my tongue often, Ive learned just to let it should address what the other person said or did, and NOTgo. Its not worth my time or energy to respond to negative who they are. Instead of saying, Youre a jerk, which onlypeople, and its not worth yours either.puts them on the defensive, how about saying, I dontMy mom always reminded me to, consider the source, appreciate the comment you just made about me. which meant that a comment from someone I didnt admire On the internet, people often attack one anotherswasnt worth contemplating.character, not their comments. When this happens, there isThink about this the next time no chance of working through the dissention. How do yousomeone posts a negative or nasty defend yourself from an assault on your character? You cant. comment on social media. They are As I write this, we are approaching the midterm electionsNOT worth your time or attention, and in the United States, and the attack ads are very disturbing.happier people will ignore them and go Why cant the candidates focus on how they are differenton to live longer. That works for me!from their competitors and what they will do if elected?Ellen Voie CAE, President/CEOInstead, they smear their opponents and in the process,Women In Trucking offend us, the voters. Association, Inc.Apparently, attack ads work because they tell a story and(920) 312-135042 TRUCK MARKET NEWS Find it Fast!www.truckmarketnews.com FEBRUARY 2020 FEBRUARY 2020 Dont forget to tell em where you found it! TRUCK MARKET NEWS 43'